Rising above and conquering the defilement, degradation and debasement of abuse, rape and molestation is a monumental task. One feels beaten up and unable to continue on. However, we cannot allow or permit such trauma and tragedy, to get the better of us.
There are millions of us, men, women, boys and girls, who have been raped, sexually molested, and abused, physically, emotionally, verbally and spiritually. Being violated is indescribable. The depth of pain, trauma, filth, shame and guilt that one who has undergone because of even just one of those sickening and debilitating experiences is inexpressible. Putting the life altering damage into words is indefinable. But we can, and we should, dis-empower our trauma, piece by piece, and thrive!
The torture of the memories, the agony of wanting to be able to wash it all away, the pain of trying to cleanse one’s mind, soul and spirit from them, are enough to lead one to all kinds of self-destructing and self-defeating vices. When one has been abused in truth, when abuse is real, one lives with its nauseating existence, wishing that he or she could just wish it away and it would never show its ugly dark head again. One creates a realm, a self-protective bubble that only he or she can live in, where hopefully, no one can reach and touch and hurt them again, spiritually, emotionally, verbally or physically. It is unhealthy but the abused needs that bubble space to get away, if only for one minute. In our quest to never be or get hurt again, we work hard to ensure that it becomes our emotional fortress and build it to become extremely formidable for anyone to enter.
But at some point for our own sake and for that of others, because we are a part of this world, and the world a part of us, we have to lay it down and walk away from it. It is easier said than done, and I am not sure that the pain ever really goes away, for many of us, but this I do know, that we can create and spread joy, love, healing, piece by piece, for ourselves and for others. It is a decision. A very tough one, but not impossible. Many have found healing through writing, what is your outlet? Is it music, is it writing, is it dancing, is it talking about it? Find your healing, get your healing, piece by piece.
Regardless of what has happened, we can put our lives together again, piece by piece. With quiet determination we can overcome our pain, shame and guilt about something we did not wish for, or bring upon ourselves. It is not our weight to carry. It is not our burden to bear. We must know that, accept that, walk in that, and piece by piece, receive and give back joy, love, peace, kindness, and even healing.
If we do not, we will lose the beautiful purpose our beautiful souls were sent on this Earth to fulfill. Don’t allow the darkness to overwhelm and overtake you. Don’t give the rapist, the violator, the molester and the abuser that kind of power over your beautiful soul and spirit. No, instead, piece by piece, every day, find time to discover your true self, bring him or her out, and live an overcoming life, one that is determinedly and deliberately put back together by your will-power and choice. Breathe and know that you deserve that. You deserve a wholesome life, no matter how battered and shattered you have been.
Conquer your violator. Conquer your molester. Conquer your rapist. Piece by piece. You deserve it. There is a plan for you. A hope and a good future.
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)
Allow yourself to be put back together again, piece by piece.